Characters in stories don’t change without being forced to change. There's an inciting incident, whether caused by accident or choice, which turns the character's life upside down, forcing him/her to grow, adapt, learn, and challenge themselves. Our lives are a lot like that too. As we think of the unique stories God has given us to pen with each of our lives, as well as becoming the people He created us to be, we have to embrace and even put into motion some inciting incidents of our own.