• 2 Samuel 13; 14:23-24, 28; 15:6; 18:5, 29, 32-33; 19:4
  • Ephesians 5:15-16
    • “Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.”


  • What is something that brought you joy, delight, or unexpected happiness this week?


  • The story from 2 Samuel 13-19 unveils parts of King David’s story many are unfamiliar with. What was your reaction to hearing such a hard, dark story from the life of one of the “heroes of the faith?”
  • As the story ends, we witness the deep regret David had over not reconciling his relationship with his son, Absolam. What do you think prevented him from seeing the right path before it was too late?
  • Matt pointed out that it’s often much easier to see what was right only in hindsight. Are there ways we can enable ourselves to see more clearly in the moment?
  • Where has regret found it’s way into your relationships?
  • Do you have any unresolved or languishing relationship right now? What’s holding you back from saying what needs to be said and restoring the relationship?


  • What is one relationship you can focus on for the next few weeks or months? Maybe it’s a relationship that is broken, or one that doesn’t exist yet. Be intentional, decide what the next step looks like, and ask God to give you the courage and grace to step into better relationships.
  • Over the course of this series, several questions and statements have been offered as ways to relate better and strengthen relationships. Which one of these will you make an intentional practice going forward?
    • “What is it like to be on the other end of me?” (Week 1)
    • “Do you know what part of the problem is here? I’m not getting what I want.” (Week 2)
    • “Where do I need to “discover and forge” friendship?” (Week 3)
    • “Identify who you’re angry with, determine what they owe you, cancel the debt, let the case go.” (Week 4)
    • “Find the most generous explanation for others’ actions and behavior.” (Week 5)
    • “Do not waste any opportunity to rebuild a relaitonship. Say what needs to be said.” (Week 6)


The Apostles’ Creed – learn more about the creed on

I believe in God, the Father almighty, creator of heaven and earth.
I believe in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord,
who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary,
suffered under Pontius Pilate,
was crucified, died, and was buried;
he descended to the dead.
On the third day he rose again;
he ascended into heaven,
he is seated at the right hand of the Father,
and he will come to judge the quick and the dead.
I believe in the Holy Spirit,
the holy catholic Church,
the communion of saints,
the forgiveness of sins,
the resurrection of the body,
and the life everlasting.


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Matt Carder - February 21, 2016

Every Opportunity


As the conclusion of our Relate series, we take a look at a story in 2nd Samuel between David and his son, Absalom. It's a reminder for us to not waste any opportunity to invest and rebuild the relationships most dear to us.

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Relationships (with spouses, family, friends) are the most emotionally charged areas of our life. Their health and status has far reaching impact on our fulfillment and happiness. It is often said that healthy relationships are made up of healthy individuals, but what does that entail exactly? And perhaps most importantly, how do we invite God to direct and transform our relationships (and ourselves) in process?

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